Fair Fighting Rules

Disagreements are inevitable, but fair fighting ensures they lead to understanding, not damage. These rules are for both parties.

Fair Fighting Rules:

1. No Hitting Below the Belt: Avoid personal attacks, insults, name-calling, or bringing up past unrelated issues.
2. Stay in the Present: Focus on the current issue. Don't drag in every past grievance.
3. No Kitchen Sinking: Don't throw every problem into one argument. Address one issue at a time.
4. Listen to Understand, Not Just to Respond: Truly hear what your partner is saying. Ask clarifying questions.
5. Use 'I' Statements: Express your feelings and needs without blaming: 'I feel [emotion] when [action] because [reason].'
6. Take Breaks if Needed: If things get too heated, agree to pause and revisit the discussion later when calm.
7. Stick to the Topic: Don't jump to unrelated issues or bring up past arguments.
8. No Stonewalling/Withdrawing: Don't shut down or walk away without agreeing to revisit the discussion.
9. No Mind-Reading: Don't assume you know what your partner thinks or feels. Ask.
10. Compromise is Key: Be open to finding solutions that work for both of you.